Single is Simple #question

A friend asked me last night, 'Would someone's life become simple by being single?'

I can only answer with a question  philosophicly, 'Do we need someone to make us feeling complete?'

The Yes and the No, neither of them is wrong.

If the purposes of our life is having a simple life in definitions is without arguing bout things and also without having bad feelings if we don't share everything in mind.

Yes, being single is a wise idea.

Because, we will never living without arguing while we live with someone. N e v e r.

It would take years to really really close to know our partner. Not to mention the relationships quality and distance took places as main requirements.

A friend of mine, has lived with her ex hubby for almost 10 years as a couple in the same house. But the ex just found out that she publishing a book. He didn't know what the hell of his ex wife's passion these 10 years. After separated he just got surprised. And the sentence 'I'm the one who knows everything bout you' became touch down.

A guy I've known just told me, that he didn't realize and couldn't even remember why he could fall in love with his ex wife 9 years ago while these days he wrote on his wall head that his ex is the most enemy on earth. They only in marriage for 1 year after dating for 7 years before it.

Each person is unique. An answer of a question 'who am I' is 'a collection of our memories'. And the memories of every person are different.

The simple minded friends, can not reach the goal of having (what they called) simple life if they're not being single, even living with our twin would be complicating. Even living with someone who is deaf and blind, is not simple. There always be conflicts.

It depends on how we manage our ego, by not making simple the both minds, but by making simple the way we communicate our own minds, not by arguing but by discussing, not by yelling but by talking. Not by keep silence, but by comprimizing.

Silence is the signal of a dangerous relationships, don't be happy of the quietness. Maybe we can feel undisturbable and simple, but it drags you to a ravine of separation.

Every human has his own purposes in life, and if we believe that there has to be another human who help us to reach our purposes and dreams, so choose someone whose worth to be by your side and, dont forget to accept all the consequences of being together.

If we need to SHARE our bests in life, why living single?

If we believe that life is nothing but GIVING, why living simple?

'Don't think simple. Act simple.'

Albert Einstein

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'You will never be able to control someone for reaching your dreams,

but you will be able to let someone control himself in ways of reaching the same dreams'.

Damn, I'm not an Angel

Another insomnia attacking last night, Weby's eyes wont shut down.

Her fingers dancing on a Blackberry keypad. She always thinks it'd better if she complaining to a dead screen rather than to a pair of alive ears. She won't adding anymore fuel into firework.

Writing is always be her medicine for healing her tired soul...

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Wish I could accept all the insultment while I should be enjoying the glory of being who I am now

But damn I'm not such an angel.

I'm mad.

Hope I could keep the braveheart passing these semetary road which full of rocks and ghosts

But damn I'm not such an angel.

I scare.

Wish I could just smile seeing me hitten by inpolite blindly perspective of some kinda 'don't know me at all' people

But damn I'm not such an angel.

I cry.

Hope I could always giving encouragement to others when sometimes in return I need an applause of being strong all the way

But damn I'm not such an angel.

I'm hurt.

Wish I could always be someone wise eventhough yells are screwing my ears and brain

But damn I'm not such an angel.

I'm angry.

Hope I could close my ears of listening bad thoughts while I should be proud for keep standing at my own feet til today

But damn I'm so not such an angel.

I'm sick.

I gave and will always give my best moments.

But I had and will always have my worst moments.

Cos unfortunately I'm not a sinless angel.

I'm only a human.

A creature who was born to carry 2 opposite sides of a coin.

If people couldn't choose to accept my worsts,

it means they probably don't deserve my bests.

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Bukan Mimpi Biasa

Diawali dari khayalan suatu malam

Menyentuh relung hati
Memenuhi pikiran
Memotivasi jiwa
Menggeraki raga

Sejak berani mengandung mimpi
Tiba-tiba semua mengarah ke cahaya
Jalan-jalan terbentang menganga
Pintu-pintu kesempatan membuka

Kemudian, mimpi itu bukan mimpi lagi
Bukan hanya tatapan kosong menerawang
Bukan hanya remasan gemas buku-buku jari
Bukan hanya tarikan nafas panjang yang bervolume kemustahilan

Mata ini sekarang selalu mencari
Jari ini pun terus menari
Nafas pun ikut berlari

Tidak sempat lagi hanya berdiam
Mahluk yang bernama mimpi itu telah lahir.
Janin itu sudah mem-bayi

Siap mengisi dunia

Memberi nyawa,
Pada mimpi-mimpi baru

How to Win

Sugar Ray Leonard believes, only 3 Steps needed tobe a Winner ;

You have to KNOW you can Win
You have to THINK you can Win
You have to FEEL you can Win

Know,
Think,
Feel.

Then,
You will Win.
No doubt.

"Naik Kelas Yuk!"

Orang bijak bilang ;

'Keabadian yang abadi adalah ketidak abadian'.

Sebab hidup ini tidak abadi, maka apa kita akan buang waktu dan berdiam diri tanpa menjadikan diri yang terbaik yang kita bisa?

Pasrah dan Ikhlas, dua kata yang berbeda sekali. Betul artinya mirip, yaitu adalah berserah pada yang kuasa, tapi jika dikaji lebih lanjut maknanya, ternyata pengaruh dari dua kegiatan tersebut bertolak belakang.

Pembedanya ada pada time frame pelaksanaan kedua kegiatan tersebut.

Pasrah adalah berserah sejak awal, merasa pasrah dengan keadaan yang (alasan pembelaannya nih) seakan2 sudah suratan takdir yang telah digariskan Tuhan. Jika sudah bertemu kondisi yang sulit maka kita malas berusaha dan mencari jalan keluar. 'Sudahlah, mungkin memang takdir saya' begitu biasanya kita berucap.

Dan kemudian membiarkan waktu berlalu begitu saja tanpa ada perubahan apapun untuk memperbaiki keadaan sulit yang kita miliki. Menyerah dengan keadaan logikanya berarti meyakini bahwa Tuhan itu tidak ada loh. Karena sebenarnya Tuhan tidak akan tinggal diam jika kita berupaya yang terbaik, setidaknya pasti akan terjadi pergeseran nasib dibanding kita pasrah saja.

Mario Teguh juga pernah berkata ; 'Kalah adalah hal yang sementara. Menyerah yang menjadikan kekalahan itu permanen'.

Beda dengan Ikhlas. Kita hidup selalu punya hak untuk melakukan perbaikan diri, punya hak untuk selalu memilih tidak menerima nasib buruk, punya hak untuk bangkit dan berusaha. Yang kita tidak punyai hak adalah menuntut hasil upaya tersebut, tidak berhak untuk selalu benar dengan ramalan hasil akhir. Berserah terhadap hasil dari segala usaha yang kita usahakan adalah inti dari ke ikhlasan. Ikhlas terhadap hasil akhir, bukan pasrah terhadap kondisi awal. Itulah pembeda 2 kata-kata berserah tersebut. Akhir, dan Awal.

Kenapa kita tidak disarankan memikirkan hasil akhir, tidak terikat dengan hasil akhir, dan ikhlas terhadap keputusan masa depan? Karena saat kita sedang berusaha melakukan kegiatan memperbaiki diri dan keadaan, kita menjadi fokus dengan hanya kegiatan mulia tersebut, tidak peduli apapun hasil akhirnya nanti. Yakin saja bahwa apapun yang kita lakukan pada saat pikiran, perasaan dan energi kita terfokus pada saat ini, maka niscaya hasilnya akan baik.

Jadi, mau pasrah sekarang, atau ikhlas nanti? 

Pasrah sekarang dan menyerah? Itu namanya tidak naik kelas karena malas masuk 'sekolahan' nya hidup. Mau kasih nilai di raport jg bingung 'guru'nya hehehe...

Usaha dan hasil akhirnya tetap tidak sesuai? Itu baru namanya belum lulus tapi setidaknya sudah pengalaman belajar di'sekolahan' hidup. Walau merah nilai nya, yang penting tidak kosong kan itu raport :)

The Amazing U

Good morning my readers,

How r U feelin today?

Mellow to the low?

Stranded to the dead?

Here's some ideas;

Stand up, grab a mirror, smile and say 'I am A-M-A-Z-ing!'

Still have a cloud in head? listen to 'I Speak No Americano' pump up song as Ur mind backsound :)

Repeat this also in mind;

There is none of a person who can judge who U r.

There is no one outside U who can take control Ur emotion.

There is no one who can make U sad without Ur permition.

I'm not requesting U to be some kinda stubborn or deaf (in other cruel word).

But, if someone in a way makes U far from positive and productive reactions, just take a deep inhale thus exhale, no need to reaction at the first place.

Freeze them, both Ur physical (mouth) and Ur mind (anger).

You better leave that person awhile from Ur sight.

Find something which can make U cool down.

Spare sometime to gather positive thoughts,

then analyze and pick the best of those.

After the clouds blew away, get back to the source and let's start our reaction firmly.

Then, clarify the SEX step ;

Share what U feel

Explain what U want

Xplore what U thought

I believe that SEX will clear up the mess,

But if not, at least U already in the right way of communication.

And, it means that person doesn't have one vision with U,

and doesn't know how an extraordinary person U r.

Don't waste time to choose another next step;

Stay and build up,

Or
Leave and move on.

Hope this post would remind U, that U r amazing.

Cos, U f r!

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Ps :

U = you

r = are

f = ... well, I'm sure U know that f word ;P

Let Your Feelings Be Your Guide

In every moment that you are awake or conscious, you are literally radiating a signal, not so different from a radio signal, and the Universe accepts that signal as your point of attraction.

Every moment that you are conscious or awake, you are literally pulsing an electronic vibration, and the entire Universe is accepting that electronic vibration as your point of attraction and is matching it with other things that are like it.

Your job is to start monitoring your feelings so you really know what is joy, and what is appreciation, what is love and what is sadness, what is anxiety, what is frustration, what is anger.                

When you can detect subtle shifts in your feelings, you will be able to do subtle adjustments in your vibration which will bring you the ability to follow your bliss

As you begin to play with your emotions, or be aware of the way you feel, when you pay attention to the way that you feel, what you are going to notice is ... your emotions let you know, your emotions are your guidance system, that let you know how you are vibrating.                       

And it is so important to understand that, because when you know how you are vibrating, then you understand why it is that you are attracting what you are getting.

Abraham-Hicks