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Kupenuhi
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November 10, 2009
November 6, 2009
rumus pernikahan yg (mendekati) abadi
Banyak orang yg setuju, bahwa didunia ini tdk ada yg abadi.
Padahal yg namanya pernikahan itu harusnya abadi, tanpa perpisahan atau perceraian.
Jadi usahanya si pemeran dalam pernikahan itulah yg dibutuhkan utk bikin masing2 tetap 'on the right track'.
Usahanya macem2 ; ada yg punya anak, sering jalan/bulan madu, mencoba hal2 baru berdua, bahkan dgn cara berselingkuh dan menutupinya rapet2.
Sebenernya ada satu cara yg paling mudah dari usaha2 mengabadikan pernikahan,
tapi syaratnya cara ini harus dilakukan jauh sebelum kita memutuskan menikah.
Masalahnya masa sesaat sebelum kita memutuskan menikah adalah masa yg sgt sulit utk memikirkan rumus ini
Pikiran saat itu diliputi rasa cinta yg membuat ketidakcocokan 2 manusia menjadi mustahil.
Misalnya ketidak cocok nya usia, agama, strata sosial, tingkat emosi dsb, hilang ketutup rasa cinta pastinya.
So, balik ke rumus tadi. Ironis memang, disaat kita membutuhkan pemikiran paling rasional dlm hidup kita, dimasa itu pula rasa cinta mengalahkan logika.
Boro2 bisa pura2 ngrasa cinta itu gak ada, ngeliat matanya aja udah bikin kita pengen meluk terus.
Bagaimana bisa, saat kita sdg diliputi rasa cinta, kita harus membayangkan apakah dia orang yg paling bs menjadi teman hidup, apabila rasa cinta itu tidak ada lagi?
Apakah kita telah memilih orang yang tepat utk hidup bersama selamanya?
Jika rumus ; mencari pasangan yang tanpa rasa cintapun, bisa kita toleran utk hidup bersama selamanya sudah bisa kita lewatin. Bisa jadi masa pernikahan nantinya jadi masa yang paling enjoyable dari masa2 hidup sebelum menikah.
Dan bisa jadi kita tidak menganggap usaha2 mengabadikan pernikahan adalah beban hidup/perjuangan hidup yang harus dijalanin dgn berat.
Karena pernikahan itu dituntut HARUS abadi, sementara rasa cinta yg seyogyanya elemen perekat pernikahan itu sendiri, sangat TIDAK abadi.
Padahal yg namanya pernikahan itu harusnya abadi, tanpa perpisahan atau perceraian.
Jadi usahanya si pemeran dalam pernikahan itulah yg dibutuhkan utk bikin masing2 tetap 'on the right track'.
Usahanya macem2 ; ada yg punya anak, sering jalan/bulan madu, mencoba hal2 baru berdua, bahkan dgn cara berselingkuh dan menutupinya rapet2.
Sebenernya ada satu cara yg paling mudah dari usaha2 mengabadikan pernikahan,
tapi syaratnya cara ini harus dilakukan jauh sebelum kita memutuskan menikah.
Masalahnya masa sesaat sebelum kita memutuskan menikah adalah masa yg sgt sulit utk memikirkan rumus ini
Pikiran saat itu diliputi rasa cinta yg membuat ketidakcocokan 2 manusia menjadi mustahil.
Misalnya ketidak cocok nya usia, agama, strata sosial, tingkat emosi dsb, hilang ketutup rasa cinta pastinya.
So, balik ke rumus tadi. Ironis memang, disaat kita membutuhkan pemikiran paling rasional dlm hidup kita, dimasa itu pula rasa cinta mengalahkan logika.
Boro2 bisa pura2 ngrasa cinta itu gak ada, ngeliat matanya aja udah bikin kita pengen meluk terus.
Bagaimana bisa, saat kita sdg diliputi rasa cinta, kita harus membayangkan apakah dia orang yg paling bs menjadi teman hidup, apabila rasa cinta itu tidak ada lagi?
Apakah kita telah memilih orang yang tepat utk hidup bersama selamanya?
Jika rumus ; mencari pasangan yang tanpa rasa cintapun, bisa kita toleran utk hidup bersama selamanya sudah bisa kita lewatin. Bisa jadi masa pernikahan nantinya jadi masa yang paling enjoyable dari masa2 hidup sebelum menikah.
Dan bisa jadi kita tidak menganggap usaha2 mengabadikan pernikahan adalah beban hidup/perjuangan hidup yang harus dijalanin dgn berat.
Karena pernikahan itu dituntut HARUS abadi, sementara rasa cinta yg seyogyanya elemen perekat pernikahan itu sendiri, sangat TIDAK abadi.
November 2, 2009
Sometimes I don't recognize who the hell I am...
Feeling happy while my parents aren't,
Feeling lonely while everyone looking at me,
Feeling needy when every things there in front of me,
Feeling strong when God giving punishments,
Feeling weak when God giving His blesses...
Those contradictive and opposite feelings always made me re-thinking whats wrong with me.
And there's one of the most unanswered questions in my life.
It is ; why I feel my mind and body so 'dirty', when everytime I just came back from following my heart's words?
Feeling happy while my parents aren't,
Feeling lonely while everyone looking at me,
Feeling needy when every things there in front of me,
Feeling strong when God giving punishments,
Feeling weak when God giving His blesses...
Those contradictive and opposite feelings always made me re-thinking whats wrong with me.
And there's one of the most unanswered questions in my life.
It is ; why I feel my mind and body so 'dirty', when everytime I just came back from following my heart's words?
October 22, 2009
October 21, 2009
'species' langka
Bahwa jenis hubungan manusia itu ter-nya-ta jumlahnya lebih banyak daripada jumlah species hewan di bumi ini.
Jenis = 'Species'
Kalau 'species' hubungan manusia berdasarkan darah sih gak perlu dibahas lahya...
Kita bahas salah satu 'species' hubungan manusia yg cukup mayoritas, yaitu 'species' yg lahir berdasarkan rasa cinta, let's say ; sex.
Didalamnya ada 2 yg dulu termasuk 'species' langka ;
1. Hubungan sex antara wanita (bersuami) yg usianya 2x lebih tua dari si pria lajang
2. Hubungan sex antara pria (yg sudah beristri 4) dgn wanita lajang yg usianya 1/3 dr si pria.
Lucunya, kebalikan dgn species hewan di dunia, yg dari langka biasanya kan berangsur punah,
Nah 2 'species' langka diatas, dari yg tadinya langka malah berangsur makin bertambah jumlahnya.
Anyway, pilihan kita cuma 2 tuh, kita tetap enjoy hidup berdampingan dgn 'species' langka manapun, atau kita berhenti saja hidup di dunia?
Jenis = 'Species'
Kalau 'species' hubungan manusia berdasarkan darah sih gak perlu dibahas lahya...
Kita bahas salah satu 'species' hubungan manusia yg cukup mayoritas, yaitu 'species' yg lahir berdasarkan rasa cinta, let's say ; sex.
Didalamnya ada 2 yg dulu termasuk 'species' langka ;
1. Hubungan sex antara wanita (bersuami) yg usianya 2x lebih tua dari si pria lajang
2. Hubungan sex antara pria (yg sudah beristri 4) dgn wanita lajang yg usianya 1/3 dr si pria.
Lucunya, kebalikan dgn species hewan di dunia, yg dari langka biasanya kan berangsur punah,
Nah 2 'species' langka diatas, dari yg tadinya langka malah berangsur makin bertambah jumlahnya.
Anyway, pilihan kita cuma 2 tuh, kita tetap enjoy hidup berdampingan dgn 'species' langka manapun, atau kita berhenti saja hidup di dunia?
October 11, 2009
dedicated to my best friend...
In the 'he's just not into you' light movie,
a woman (jennifer aniston) talks straightly to her 7 years lovely but has a marriage phobia - boyfriend (ben affleck) :
'I love u and I want u, if having u is by not getting marriage for the rest of my life, so be that.
Cos these years I've been spent with u and to be loved by you, I feel more than a best 'wife' of a wonderful 'husband''
So, I think the insight of the story was, u don't have to push your already-strong relationship just to get some legitimition from others,
If u both already touch the beautiful sky together, don't make people around have rights to choose what's best for ur heart.
a woman (jennifer aniston) talks straightly to her 7 years lovely but has a marriage phobia - boyfriend (ben affleck) :
'I love u and I want u, if having u is by not getting marriage for the rest of my life, so be that.
Cos these years I've been spent with u and to be loved by you, I feel more than a best 'wife' of a wonderful 'husband''
So, I think the insight of the story was, u don't have to push your already-strong relationship just to get some legitimition from others,
If u both already touch the beautiful sky together, don't make people around have rights to choose what's best for ur heart.
October 10, 2009
sometimes i get jealous to ...
If I had a chance to re arrange my life I would like to be ;
1. a lawyer
2. a writer
3. an anchor
4. a producer
5. a designer
I'm not any of them, so sometimes I get really jealous to ...
1. Obama's charm
2. Larry King's brain
3. Oprah Windfrey's ideas
4. Simon Cowell's wealth
5. Ferrari designer's inspiration
1. a lawyer
2. a writer
3. an anchor
4. a producer
5. a designer
I'm not any of them, so sometimes I get really jealous to ...
1. Obama's charm
2. Larry King's brain
3. Oprah Windfrey's ideas
4. Simon Cowell's wealth
5. Ferrari designer's inspiration
the main characthers of my closest people...
ME : focus, responsible, undetailed person and always pleases everyone
MS : moody, spontaneous, a great joker, expressive and hardly hide
her feelings
SI : a royal, full of crazy ideas, never do plan, easy to give trusts,
selfish but lovable
AA : listen the unspoken words, rough, arrogant, ambitious and spoiled
CL : curious but lack of attention, fast adjuster, like to give people a hard time
DL : strong, free and outgoing, an ice breaker, not a theory person
LH : self centered, high confident, sometimes blind of the reality,
but a great listener and a secret keeper
BW : quiet, unclear, have a high dedication, caring and sensitive
PE : survivor, irresponsible, entertainer and routine enemy
I learn from them either I like or not like their character.
And I think I have at least 1 character of each in theirs.
MS : moody, spontaneous, a great joker, expressive and hardly hide
her feelings
SI : a royal, full of crazy ideas, never do plan, easy to give trusts,
selfish but lovable
AA : listen the unspoken words, rough, arrogant, ambitious and spoiled
CL : curious but lack of attention, fast adjuster, like to give people a hard time
DL : strong, free and outgoing, an ice breaker, not a theory person
LH : self centered, high confident, sometimes blind of the reality,
but a great listener and a secret keeper
BW : quiet, unclear, have a high dedication, caring and sensitive
PE : survivor, irresponsible, entertainer and routine enemy
I learn from them either I like or not like their character.
And I think I have at least 1 character of each in theirs.
August 15, 2009
when words became bad perception
That day on June,
Was happen for a reason
God decided to give a sign
Not my or his fault, but HIS will
But since I heard he said 'I can't trust u anymore due to our day on june' ...
The thought is now wrong.
It became ;
That day on June,
Was happen because of me
I crossed the line
My fault.
It whispered slowly in my brain ...
If he thinks that day on June was my fault,
What if the day on August somehow became a mess?
According to last experience, I believe he will say the same...
And, he will think that whenever day in our life which has a mess,
Is my fault.
I can't ignoring words. Coz my ear so damn near to my brain.
If I don't hv his trust, so how can i share mine?
Was happen for a reason
God decided to give a sign
Not my or his fault, but HIS will
But since I heard he said 'I can't trust u anymore due to our day on june' ...
The thought is now wrong.
It became ;
That day on June,
Was happen because of me
I crossed the line
My fault.
It whispered slowly in my brain ...
If he thinks that day on June was my fault,
What if the day on August somehow became a mess?
According to last experience, I believe he will say the same...
And, he will think that whenever day in our life which has a mess,
Is my fault.
I can't ignoring words. Coz my ear so damn near to my brain.
If I don't hv his trust, so how can i share mine?
June 30, 2009
i can not compete with your egos
Hey let me tell you this, I can not compete with your egos,
They always won
Althought your heart saying he loves me,
Your mind loves your egos even more
So, I can not compete with them, really.
They always won
Althought your heart saying he loves me,
Your mind loves your egos even more
So, I can not compete with them, really.
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